Women...YOU can get your dream diamond engagement ring even if your guy is making the purchase on his own for a surprise! You really only need to understand your love’s thought process.
Men during the act of engagement diamond ring shopping have the ABC priorities:
A) To be a Great investment
B) To make the love of thier life... very happy
C) And they have a fear of disappointing you or even rejection from you!
For all 3 points, the fear of making a mistake creates thier actions.Their dignity & the desire to suddenly or without warning, declare their love for you with an engagement ring typically prohibits him from asking you for advice. So the man will implement logic to what should be an emotional decision.
Men usually go at diamond hunting the same as any other problem they might face.They dig through the subject matter, get together all important facts and hense the analytical conclusion they come to! They assume you will have the same priorities they have, so they focus on what would be a sound investment. They will seek the highest in excellence, perhaps fearing that anything beneath you, will somehow imply a lesser level of love for you.
Typically a first stop is a jewelry store at a mall. They will walk around and realize they just entered into a different planet,lol. Looking at rings in the display cases and seeing more zeros on the price tag than they have seen since they bought their first vehicle. His heart will start palpitating as he realizes he may have to fork over 1,000's of $$$ on a little rock he knows nothing about, then give it to you with the possibility of rejection. (poor guy)!
Now he decides he may need to do more research in a less unfriendly atmosphere. He heads back home, goes to the computer, starts searching online for clues on how to survive the diamond buying process.
The goal for him is to find a lovely ring YOU will love and have a few dollars left in his wallet. They feel more at ease with the discussions of the four C’s (color, clarity, carat weight and cut) where they can match up those letter grades with their budget to find some possible options. However, with a little knowledge comes that foreboding feeling that there is a lot more for him to learn in order to protect himself and you from making an expensive mistake
He will become even more inclined to not make a mistake, he'll spend the next days/weeks scouring all pertinent facts he can get his hands on!
At this stage in the process he'll kind of forget the main reason he started on this perplexing adventure in the first place. Losing sight of his main goal--making YOU happy!
If you are a woman reading this,you're probably getting the picture. Are you are asking yourself, what should I do to help make sure the diamond engagement ring/proposal of my dreams comes to me as I've always hoped?
Read the points below...they may assist in your dreams coming true:
A) Do some window shopping for yourself....tell the boyfriend the shape of diamond you favour.Try not to leave it up to him to guess wrongly.
B) Dropping some subtle hints (if you believe it's supposed to be a surprise) about ring mounting (solitaire, side stones,etc.) Leave a magazine laying around to be browsed through when you are together, pointing out a ring or two that you find to your liking! Hinting at what you want is something we as women know all about!
C) Also...If you have a clear choice in your mind about the type of metal in the ring (rose gold, white gold,platinum, etc.),you must find some way to let him know,I have faith in you!
D) If you're in a relationship with your man that supports it, do get involved with the diamond ring purchasing process.There are more and more couples doing the engagement ring shopping with each other now and the result being higher elevation of happiness and usually much lower levels of stressfullness!
The bottom line here is that your guy is really trying to do everything right to make you happy. Be patient & try to appreciate the sweet efforts he is making on behalf of you.
And seeing as you would probably love this diamond gift giving done again (wink, wink),by all means tell your guy the proudness you feel for all his dedication in the search for your DREAM engagement ring! Good Luck to You Both in LIFE and LOVE!
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